There is much more to this term than everyday clinginess. Codependent relationships are far more extreme than this. A person who is codependent will plan their entire life around pleasing the other person, or the enabler. In its simplest terms, a codependent relationship is when one partner needs the other partner, who in turn, needs to be needed.
Christopher Lane for the Observer Her book is shot through with irony, a mode she feels to be more productive than anger. But it did wake me up in the middle of the night. All that stuff Kafka wrote about is true: The same email informed her that relationships between graduates and staff, though not forbidden, were also problematic, and had to be reported to department chairs.
The language was neutral, but it seemed clear that it was mostly women this code was meant to protect. She thought of all those she knew who are married to former students, or who are the children of such couples, and wondered where this left them. It was also of a piece with a wider mood.
As in the wider world, sexuality is often on public display. But people are also ready to be offended, and students ready to sue: Thus, the authorities seem to be unwilling to object to the relatively low standard of proof demanded in Title IX cases. The ostensible grounds for the Title IX complaints against Kipnis were that in her essay she had written four paragraphs about Peter Ludlow, a popular Northwestern philosophy professor who had been accused twice of sexual misconduct with students.
At that point, she had never met Ludlow. Everything she included in the piece was based on publicly available information.
This time they were against a faculty member who had spoken out about her case, which he saw as a violation of her academic freedom, and against Morton Schapiro, who had written a column for the Wall Street Journal about academic freedom, a piece the accusers regarded as a veiled commentary on the Kipnis case the president had, in fact, not mentioned it in his article.
And what of Peter Ludlow, whose story she went on to more fully investigate for her book? Ludlow was accused twice under Title IX, first by an undergraduate Kipnis calls Eunice Cho in her book, and then by a graduate student, Nola Hartley also a pseudonym.
In essence, Cho accused Ludlow of groping her in his apartment, where she had gone of her own volition after they had had a night out together.
Ludlow was duly stripped of his named chair, had his salary cut, and was required to complete a harassment prevention training programme. She and Ludlow had seemingly been in a relationship: She was a year-old graduate student, and he was not her supervisor.
Among the evidence she uses to do so are emails Hartley sent to Ludlow the morning after the alleged rape, apologising for having hurt him — she was also seeing a man she later married — and telling him that she loved him and would always be in his life; a receipt from the nearby hotel where Ludlow spent the night alone, apparently devastated that Hartley could not bring herself to choose him over his rival; and the fact that the couple remained on good terms for a while after she eventually ended the relationship.
Confronted with the same evidence by a Title IX investigator, Hartley changed her story: Nevertheless, the investigator favoured her version of events.
After this, the university began dismissal proceedings. Hartley, by the way, was one of the two students who made Title IX complaints against Kipnis. I was one of a small group of women who fought to bring in a sexual harassment code at my college in the late s, and what I remember is how badly we felt it was needed, and how much resistance there was to the idea that clever people could also be in the habit of pinching bums, or worse.
But I am also the product of a student-lecturer relationship: No doubt he would, and would be expected to, behave differently now.Perhaps being in the market for a mate can’t be compared with using other services.
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